“Are You Enough?”

The question “Are you enough” is often internally asked by you, but it only appears as a thought when its either based on “Reassessment” or as “Confidence”. At first I didn’t really understand that, but you know how sometimes when you personally experience something and it hits you different compared to when its said? Yeah…. those types of moments are always like a mini wake up call for me, so it was really great to hear from other people that they have been through similar wake up calls regarding that same question.

Obviously I know that not everyone’s situation is going to be the same but you would be surprised how someone who isn’t as relate-able to you and your situation can give you advice or even a perspective you didn’t think would be useful for you. Okay so remember how I said earlier that the ” Are you enough” question can be based off reassessment or confidence well before I explain myself and my thinking I just want to make it clear that this is MY OWN OPINION so I clearly know that not everyone is going to agree with what I’m saying and there is gonna be some people who read all of this and then just instantly forget about it, but that’s okay cause…. its all good! Now that we have gotten that out of the way lemme tell you what happened to me.

So basically, it kind of all started back in middle school when I was finally old enough to process how my family members made me feel about how I was never “enough”. Like at first it started of with baby stuff, like me always trying to do things to impress them and do really well in sports, or like get in good with all my teachers so they could tell my family what a great student I was. However, as I got older the “expectations” became even more aggressive. Like I know that as you grow there are certain things a girl needs to learn but I also feel like there is a better way to go about it!

For example, my family is always on me about learning how to properly cook and clean and be a good wife, etc. and I appreciate this because they want me to be able to be independent but we REALLY GOT A PROBLEM when I can’t make the rice with the bean sauce and the chicken the SAME WAY y’all did after showing me the first time. Like Whatt…..? how does that make any sense ?!, but that’s not even the worst of them all !! The worst is when they make you feel like your decisions about what will make you happy or your decisions in general are just straight out WRONG! Yes family wants the best for you but they DOWN PLAY the idea of what your interested in sooo hard you be like” DAMNNNNN MAAA there’s just no pleasing you !!”

Then sometimes they have the audacity to wanna make themselves the victim when we show that we just don’t care about their criticism anymore and just wanna do our own thing. Like I’m not trying to hurt you or make you feel bad you just need to understand where I’m coming from and instead of dictating my path in life, it’s better to guide me because then we both can come to a medium and still do our jobs for the roles we have.

But let’s get one thing straight, family aren’t the only people who can bring you down to the “Are you enough” question, your friends, your associates, or even sometimes your surroundings can bring you down to that point. You may not think or want to believe that other people can have an affect on you but you need to face the reality, whether you like it or not, that it does.
However just because something gets to you doesn’t mean that you can’t fight it off and prevent yourself from being around that energy or in that same situation again. It’s all based off YOUR will power and YOU wanting to distance yourself from that energy and YOU wanting to bring about your own change that YOU feel is necessary for yourself. We are all a lot stronger than we think to believe but is okay to have struggles or falling points cause they develop who you are as a person and help build your character.